Happy International Women’s Day (2)

I asked a number of women to contribute some thoughts to the blog to mark the occasion of the day.  But, being a wumman with far too much to do and too little time in which to do it, I half-ersed it.  In that, I had the thought but then forgot to do the asking until it was almost too late.

Didn’t give folk enough time.  Cos they are all dead busy women too, but a few did indeed come up trumps.  And their thoughts are well worth having and sharing.

Are there any lessons from this wee episode?  Aside from me needing to plan things better (I have been urged to try this from an early age and never really quite got round to giving it a whirl)?  How about – how can we make women’s lives less busy so that they have more time to share with each other and simply to be.  Yup that would do it.

First up, Kezia Dugdale, Labour MSP for Lothians and one of the 2011 intake.  It would be remiss of me not to say that Kez is one of the bright young political things and is fairly making her mark, with a swift promotion into the Shadow Cabinet ranks with her appointment as Shadow Minister for Youth Unemployment.

I asked her what IWD means to her:

“For me, it’s a day for celebration and contemplation. A worthy moment to pause and mark the progress we’ve made towards equality.

But it’s also a day to reaffirm our collective commitment for a better tomorrow. To focus the mind on a more equal and just Scotland and to share our energy, experiences and hopes with other sisters around the world for whom the march towards equality is only just beginning.

And when it comes to Scotland’s constitutional future, I hope that across the political spectrum we can unite today behind the shared belief that women’s voices must be at the heart of our country’s debate. The settled will cannot be set by men in suits alone.”

And I also asked Gail Lythgoe, as another of Scottish politics’ bright young things, what advice she might want to impart on International Women’s Day to young women about to enter adulthood.  Gail is Convenor of SNP Students and is also on the party’s National Executive Committee.  She’s intelligent and fiercely bright, as well as being statuesque and sunny and just an all-round lovely person.  And we found out – rather bizarrely on twitter – that her aunt and I were at school together.  Scotland the village indeed.

“When asked what advice I would give to a younger woman, I eventually came to the conclusion it would have to be: you probably have, or can gain, the skills; you just need to gain belief in yourself.

How many times have you noticed that you sit in a discussion or meeting and have had some thoughts buzzing through your mind and yet thought “someone else will put it better than me” or “the point probably isn’t even that relevant anyway”? I have experienced that all my life before I realised, only very recently, I should just say it. Later on, I’ve assessed it to have been relevant to the discussion and been glad I said it. Otherwise, much more confident folk, typically men, will tend to dominate discussions.

I noticed at a recent NUS Conference, that when the Education Secretary was being asked questions by the audience, there was only 1 female and plenty of males asking questions. And I wondered, how many young women were thinking and forming thoughts in that very room but not putting them into words?

My advice to young women is to be yourself and rather than judging yourself on those around you, to look at what really matters to you. For some reason, ambitious is a dirty word. It is only dirty if you make your intentions and actions dirty. Be motivated, strive to do your best, aspire for a better world and better you and be as determined as you want.

Examine your belief in yourself. Where do you want to be? And how can you get yourself there?”

I also put the same question to Shelagh McKinlay who tweets as @Shequeen and blogs at the Absurdist as well as on the Herald’s online political pages.  Her parliamentary sketches are laugh out loud funny;  indeed, she’s one of the best and most witty writers/bloggers I know and I’m delighted to have got to know her a little, thanks to twitter.

“What would I tell young women heading for adulthood today? In many ways I’d give them the same advice as I’d give to young men. Respect yourself. Respect others. Work hard. Invest in a good bra.  

Young people face many of the same challenges regardless of gender and we must hope that future generations of men and women will work together to keep building a better society. But some things are different for girls.  Sexism still exists, it is not a figment of the imagination of middle-aged feminists like me.

The freedom women have today was hard won and, unfortunately, cannot be taken for granted.  I’d tell them that they therefore shouldn’t be complacent or accept second best.  Protecting our freedom involves fighting your corner and being what some might term “difficult”. I’d tell them not to worry about that. I’d tell them that too many young women, and I was one of them, worry too much about being liked for the wrong reasons – for being biddable and uncomplaining and not saying “No”.  I’d tell them saying “No” is fine if you have good reason and that if people don’t like it, that’s their problem.

I’d tell them to forget about being “good” and concentrate on being decent. I’d tell them to celebrate the fact that they live at a time when they have so much choice and opportunity. Young women today do face difficult choices, but I’d still rather have their life than my grandmother’s. 

Finally, I’d tell them to wear teeny tiny skirts and dance like crazy whenever they can, because one day the chance to do either may not come around so often.”